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Gemma’s First Birthday Doljabi- A Celebration of Culture and Connection

Doljabi, korean first birthday for baby Gemma, where she chooses her future, she chooses a stethoscope for physican. Mom holds her in her traditional korean dress.

Ever wondered what tradition, adorable baby giggles, and a dash of destiny look like? Let me take you behind the scenes of Gemma’s first birthday doljabi. It was a vibrant celebration rooted in Korean culture and bursting with love.
Spoiler alert: It involves tiny hands choosing their future career path, squishy baby cheeks, and some of the best food I’ve ever tasted.

In Korean culture, a doljabi is more than just a birthday—it’s a cherished tradition that celebrates a baby’s milestone first year while offering a peek into their future. During this event, various symbolic items are placed before the birthday child. The baby then picks one, and each item hints at their potential path in life: a gavel for a future judge, a paintbrush for an artist, a microphone for a musician, a stethoscope for a doctor, and even thread for longevity. Watching little Gemma reach out with her tiny fingers was the cutest—and possibly most suspenseful—moment of the day, especially since there was a raffle to make it extra fun. And guess what? Little Miss Gemma—with her squishable cheeks and gummy smile—reached straight for the stethoscope. Future doctor in the making? We’ll have to wait and see, but the room erupted in cheers and laughter when she made her pick.


Stephanie and Robert hosted Gemma’s doljabi at The East Norwalk Association Library. The venue was intimate yet lively, filled with family, friends, and the warmth of celebration. Gemma, dressed in a stunning traditional Hanbok, looked like a little princess. Her parents, also dressed in Hanboks, radiated grace and pride as they shared this special day with their loved ones.

Gemma’s at the perfect age where everything is fascinating, and is full of personality. She lit up every time I sang “Wheels on the Bus” to catch her attention.

If you’re planning a special event—whether it’s a doljabi, a birthday, or just a fun family gathering—I’d love to be there to document it. I’m based in Fairfield County, Connecticut, and I also serve the New York Metro Area. Let’s make sure your memories aren’t just lived but beautifully preserved forever.

30 Ways to Make Your Event Photos Look Like Magic”

1. Golden Hour Timing

Plan the event or key moments (like speeches, group photos, or couple portraits) during golden hour, just after sunrise or before sunset. The soft, warm light flatters every skin tone and creates a dreamy, ethereal vibe that enhances the mood of any photograph.

2. Fairy Lights Galore

Drape fairy lights over trees, walls, or even tables. Their warm glow creates a cozy, magical atmosphere, especially for evening events. They also act as great bokeh (blurred light) in the background of photos.

3. Bold Backdrops

Use statement walls, floral arches, or colorful murals as backdrops. They add vibrancy and a polished, intentional look to your photos. Personalize them to match the theme of your event for added impact.

4. Candids Over Poses

Encourage guests to interact naturally. Capture laughter, hugs, and those quiet moments of connection. The best photos often come from people being themselves rather than looking directly at the camera.

5. Props with Personality

Props like funky sunglasses, chalkboards with messages, or themed decor help tell the story of the event. For weddings, kids’ parties, or family reunions, these items add a playful and unique touch to photos.

6. Mix Indoor & Outdoor Shots

If your event spans indoor and outdoor spaces, use both to add variety. Indoor shots can highlight the cozy details, while outdoor shots capture openness and natural light.

7. Bright, Coordinated Outfits

While matching outfits can feel stiff, choosing complementary colors makes photos cohesive without looking overly planned. Bright colors or patterns stand out and add personality.

8. Decor Details

Photograph intricate elements like table centerpieces, floral arrangements, or unique decor pieces. These details add depth to the story and preserve the effort that went into the event’s aesthetic.

9. Interactive Activities

Events with games, DIY stations, or performances offer action-packed opportunities for great shots. Guests absorbed in activities create dynamic and joyful photos.

10. Confetti Moments

Throwing confetti at a key moment—like the end of a speech or during a toast—creates movement and color. Biodegradable confetti is eco-friendly and photographically stunning.

11. Smoke Bombs

Colorful smoke bombs create an artistic, surreal effect in photos. Use them for dramatic portraits or group shots to add whimsy and visual interest. Safely, of course.

12. Mirror Reflections

Use mirrors creatively to frame guests or decor. Mirrors can reflect light beautifully, create depth, and add a modern, artistic flair to photos.

13. Candles Everywhere

Scatter candles on tables or use candelabras to bring warmth and romance to the scene. For safety, opt for flameless candles if kids are present.

14. Dramatic Drapes

Flowy drapes in bold colors or sheer fabrics can create soft, romantic vibes. Use them on entryways, as photo booth backdrops, or even as decor for outdoor setups.

15. Focus on Laughter

Plan moments that make people genuinely laugh, like a funny toast or a silly group activity. Unscripted laughter translates into radiant, joyful photos.

16. Include the Pets

If your furry friends are part of the family, bring them along! Pets add charm and often steal the spotlight in photos with their natural curiosity and energy.

17. Capture the Prep

Photograph behind-the-scenes moments like setting up decor, getting ready, or candid interactions among family members before guests arrive. These moments tell a fuller story of the event.

18. Rainy Day? Embrace It

Rain doesn’t have to ruin photos—it can enhance them! Umbrellas, puddles, and reflections on wet surfaces can add artistic flair.

19. Neon Signs

Custom neon signs with cool phrases, this way in can provide a modern, vibrant focal point for photos. They’ll look especially striking in nighttime or indoor settings.

20. Overhead Perspectives

Use ladders, drones, or balconies to capture wide shots of the event from above. This perspective highlights the scale and energy of the crowd.

21. Capture Reactions

Focus on people’s expressions during speeches, toasts, or big reveals. Genuine reactions often tell a story that words cannot.

22. Play with Shadows

Look for interesting shadows cast by trees, windows, or decor. Shadows can create dramatic and artistic elements within photos.

23. Monochromatic Moments

Plan a color theme like all white or all jewel tones. Monochrome looks create a visually cohesive and striking aesthetic.

24. Dance Floor Action

Capture the energy of guests letting loose on the dance floor. Motion blur or dramatic lighting adds a sense of movement and fun to these shots.

25. Include Family Heirlooms

Incorporate sentimental items, like a grandparent’s quilt or your mom’s wedding earrings, to add a layer of personal storytelling.

26. Festive Balloons

Oversized balloons, garlands, or ones with confetti inside bring playful, eye-catching elements to photos.

newlyweds in front of sparkler exit at the end of their wedding

27. Sparklers at Night

Hand out sparklers for guests to hold during a nighttime send-off. The warm, glowing light adds magic and energy to photos.

28. Unexpected Angles

Shoot through plants, decor, or doorways to create frames within frames. This adds layers and depth to your photos.

29. Cultural Touches

Highlight traditions, cultural attire, or rituals unique to your family or community. These elements bring deeper meaning and connection to the photos.

30. End on a High Note

Plan a memorable finale, like fireworks, a confetti blast, or a dance circle. These moments create high-energy, joyful photos to close the event gallery beautifully.

Milli Stephania is a lifestyle and candid event and family photographer based in Stratford, CT. She passionately captures bold, vibrant moments for families across Fairfield County and New York City, turning life’s everyday stories into timeless, unforgettable memories.

How Candid Photos Made a Mom Tear Up with Joy

mother changing her newborn in the nursery

I’ll never forget when I delivered a gallery to a sweet mom, and she messaged me with: “These made me cry. I’ve never seen myself like this.” Cue my own little dance in my kitchen, don’t judge. That’s the magic of candid photography: seeing the moments you didn’t even know existed, the ones that show the love, the chaos, and the beautiful reality of motherhood.

mother watching while kids play

Moms Are Always Behind the Camera

If you’re a mom, I bet your phone is bursting with photos of your kids: their first steps, their silly faces, their masterpiece crayon drawings on your walls. And let’s not forget the dozens of group shots at family events where everyone looks great… except, wait, where are you? Oh, right. You’re the one taking the picture. Moms are like the stealthy ninjas of family photography, always capturing the memories but rarely appearing in them. It’s almost as if we’re trying to make ourselves invisible.
Um, excuse me!!
Spoiler alert: we’re not.

But here’s the thing: Moms matter. You were there too. You did the bedtime stories, the epic pancake breakfasts, the dance parties in the living room. And someday, when your kids look back at those moments, they’ll want to see you there, too, smiling, laughing, and being the heart of their childhood.

Candid Photos: The Ultimate Love Letter to Yourself

Mom holding her baby close with a warm smile while sitting on the living room floor while her toddler dances circles around her.

When I photograph families, I always make it a point to turn the lens on moms. And not just the posed “hey, look over here and smile” kind of shots. I’m talking about the real, raw, blink-and-you’ll-miss-it moments. Like when your toddler grabs your face for a sloppy kiss or when you’re laughing so hard at your partner’s dad joke that you’ve got tears streaming down your face. Those are the moments that make you, you.

The beauty of candid photos is that they’re not about perfection. It’s not about having your hair perfectly curled or your kids sitting neatly in matching outfits (though props to you if you manage that). It’s about capturing the love, the chaos, and everything in between. It’s about giving yourself permission to exist in the frame with messy hair, yoga pants, and whatever mixed match socks you found closest by.

What Will Your Kids Remember?

When your kids grow up and flip through photo albums or scroll through your digital archives, they’re not going to care about whether you had makeup on or if the kitchen was spotless. They’ll care that you were there. They’ll care about seeing the way your eyes lit up when you looked at them, the way you held them close, and the way you made their world feel safe and full of love.

Imagine your grown-up daughter showing her own kids a picture of you laughing in the backyard, holding her as a toddler. She’ll say, “This is your grandma. She was always so full of life.” That’s the legacy of a candid photo: it’s not just a picture; it’s a memory, a story, a connection that transcends time.

mother and teenage daughter laughing together

Change the Narrative

Moms, this is your gentle nudge, no, your loving shove, to get in the frame. Be part of the memories. Let someone else hold the camera (or better yet, let me do it). Because you deserve to be seen, celebrated, and remembered just as much as everyone else in your family.

So, next time you book a photo session, don’t shy away from the camera. Embrace it. Laugh. Dance. Be unapologetically you. And when you see those photos, I hope you’ll tear up, as well, because you’ll see what everyone else sees: a mom who is bold, beautiful, and full of magic.

mother and teenage daughter together

Photo Journal: A Candid Day at the Stratford Main Street Festival

stratford main street festival, block party where vendors come together to build community and network with patreons and locals. Photograph of a dad waiting in line for a food truck with his daughter on his shoulders.

What do you get when you close down an entire street, sprinkle in talented artisans, mouthwatering food, and a dash of small-town charm? The Stratford Main Street Festival—a photographer’s dream and my perfect excuse to sneak out of “mom mode” and dive back into street photography.

Life with kids is a constant juggle of diapers, snacks, and sheer chaos, so lugging my camera around for fun isn’t always in the cards. But this time, I made no excuses. The hubs took over diaper duty while I captured the vibrancy of Stratford’s annual “block party.” The energy of Main Street was magnetic—laughter, live music, and the aroma of food trucks lined the air as families and friends celebrated together.

One of the things I love about candid photography is the rawness of the moments I get to freeze. Whether it’s kids with popsicle-sticky faces, vendors passionately talking about their craft, or friends reuniting with hugs, these unscripted moments are pure magic.


After the festival, I shared a gallery with the town’s Facebook group, and the response? Heartwarming. A Greek restaurant vendor, Rita’s Pitas, thanked me for a photo of them hard at work, something they hadn’t had time to do themselves. The joy of giving people a tangible memory to cherish? That’s why I do what I do.

stratford main street festival, block party where vendors come together to build community and network with patreons and locals. Photo of magician laughing while entertain a teen and dad in the festival

Being behind the lens doesn’t just let me capture stories—it helps me connect with people. During the festival, I met so many passionate small business owners, like Nikkya, at Obodo Serendipity Bookstore in Paradise Green. She’s doing incredible things for the neighborhood, from hosting book readings to planning community events like their recent Mother’s Day celebration. It reminded me why I love being a photographer and a community cheerleader.

As a Connecticut and New York-based photographer, capturing life’s special moments is my bread and butter. But events like these—filled with the essence of togetherness—are a beautiful reminder that photography isn’t just about images. It’s about memories, connection, and celebrating the magic of right now.