25 Things I Have Learned In My 25 Years of Life

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e527My birthday has just inspired me to write a little for you guys, and I know it’s pretty long, but we all need to do some reading anyway! Here are the 25 things I have learned, or atleast remember at the moment.
Enjoy!

1.You can’t force advice:  When I was younger(and rebellious), my mother would always give me “consejos”. (consejos=advice in spanish) It could be anything small or even life changing, and when that act wouldn’t happen, I would be in a lot of trouble, given a stink eye or like any dominican parents, get talked about to all her other friends. But I’ve grown to learn that advice is not an order. You can always listen, because someone is giving you their opinion about what you should do, but at the end of day, you always have a choice. And it’s yours. Consequences or not.

2.If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship: Almost everyone is looking for that “special one” that instant love that would make all your worries and doubts fade. That happily ever after. Of course you can find that, byt life isn’t a fairytale moment. You have to find love and happiness with yourself before looking for it in another.Stick_Figure_Love_by_Not_A_Prodigy

3.When you smile, you make someone else feel better: I have had some crappy days, let me tell you my friend. I’ve noticed when those bad days takes over me, that attitude, energy can mess up moods along the way. I’ve noticed even while hiking through the MTA, a little smile can go along way. Not only does it make me feel better, but smiles are contagious. Maybe someone else had a bad day, your tiny act probably made someone feel good about themselves or their day.

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4.Respect and love yourself and others will do the same: Don’t expect others to see gold where you can only see dust. If you don’t believe in yourself, if you don’t believe that you are a capable, a worthy human being, chances are that nobody will. You will act on that belief and people will treat you based on what you think about yourself, based on how you treat yourself and based on how you act and behave in the world.

5.You can’t force someone to be a part of your life: I can’t stress this one enough. I’ve always been the type to treat others how they treat you. It’s only common sense and what most us have been raised with. But no matter how much you try to be decent to others, some people are just toxic. No good can come from having negativity being thrown at you. Sometimes you have to remove certain people from your life, even if they’re family. Don’t take it personal and just keep it moving.images

6.Yelling only makes things worse: Making a valid point is a way to be heard when battling minds. It may not always be easy, but losing your temper makes your point seem silly when all the adrenaline is rushing  through your system.

7.Dancing in your underwear in front of a mirror is the best medicine: Sometimes, nothing but acting ridiculous and letting all my frustrations, sadness or even happiness is best expressed by dancing. I get down. I’m so glad I don’t have people peeking through my windows when I act up, let alone in undies and ugly pajamas, so embarrasing! But give me my glass of wine and pump up the music, I’m always ready…plus you get a easy workout. haha.

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8.People deserve a second chance:  We are all humans, weall make mistakes, and we all deserve a second chance. By doing this, you are also allowing them to grow and to become better and better every day. Your ego might tell you to “let these people go” but what does your heart tell you?

9.Not all is fair in love: Relationships are a two way street. They tend to be harder and stressful than work itself. But if you really want something to last, you find a way to make it happen, and on that note,  it needs to be wanted by both persons. Not to mention, not getting too confortable where you start to lose respect for the other. But, that’s another whole story I won’t get into right now.flower-love-romance-stickman-stick-figure

10.Be Grateful: The law of attraction works in all that is good and also in all that is bad, and it’s only up to us whether we choose to focus our attention on the negative or on the positive. Focus your attention on the many great things you have and you are grateful for, and you will see that the more you do that, the more reasons you will have to express your gratitude for.

11.Stay Humble: I can’t stress this one enough. I have met so many talented and beautiful people, and sometimes you come across some who need to knocked down a peg. Narcissm is one of the ugliest traits I find on people. Be humble, it will get you far.

 12.Revenge is for the petty and irresponsible:  Forgiveness is the act of compassionately releasing the desire to punish someone or yourself.  It’s a state of grace. I know you have to feel anger before you forgive, but most acts of revenge have consequences, not to mention childish. The urge to punish others has much more to do with venting frustration than correcting behavior. Things don’t always work out, learn to let go and you’ll love better for it.stickfigure

13.Bad Hair Days are the worst: Enough Said.

You can’t hide a bad mood from people who know you well, but you can always be polite: Just because your in a bad mood, it doesn’t mean it has to effect everything about your day. Your character is most seen when things aren’t going well for you. How you handle it, is everything.

14.Everyone has a story: Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours. We all have gone through things, being fired, not enough attention as a kid, heartaches, abuse, accidents, deaths, etc. It’s not meant to be compared, just know sometimes it can define a person, sometimes it may not, not everything is about your level of pain.

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15.Laughter is everything: Have you ever caught yourself laughing, I mean really laughing to the point your stomach hurts and you can’t breathe? It’s the best high in the world, and it’s free!

16.When you break promises to yourself, you feel terrible. When you make a habit of it, you begin to hate yourself: We all have those moments. I’m gonna start eating better, I’m gonna go to the gym, I won’t date douche-bag guys anymore, that was my last doughnut, I’m gonna go back to school etc. Let’s start keeping our promises to ourselves. We matter.

17.Planning Usually Helps: I’m the type of person who loves to write everything down, as you can obviously see.  I jot down everything from what I need to get done, what I want to accomplish, budgets, Ideas, what to buy etc. You get the point. Not only does it let me physically see what I need to tackle first, but it makes me feel better that I try so hard to be organized.  Process Stick Figure

18.People come and go like seasons: Life is a solo trip, but you’ll have lots of visitors. Some of them are long-term, most aren’t.

19.Every problem you have is your responsibility, regardless of who caused it:  I didn’t start it, but I’m gonna finish it. I know that sounds familiar to some of you. Not everything is your fault, yes, but how YOU handle it makes all the difference in how this day is going to turn out, how people view you, what you as a person represent.

20.A kid will always tell you the truth, even if you didn’t ask: I don’t have kids, but I have been and am constantly around many. They just don’t have that filter yet, so be aware, that they will be the ones to say (and very loudly) why is your hair that color? What’s that on your nose?(septum) How come you’re not married? But you’re so old! etc. Expect the truth to hit harder than a drunk guy’s truth.

21. Women have Hair too: Being a woman is a constant battle. Media doesn’t help with all their magazine and perfect celebrities, and let’s not even start discussing the male prospective on how they see us! We have ourselves to maintain as well,  waxing everything, everywhere (Ouch!) Where do I sign up for Laser Treatment?

22. A Penny saved is worthless, save about 100, 892,753,8245,704,169 instead: That was a random number,obviously. But I think you get my drift. I always tell myself I’m gonna start saving, and when I see it doesn’t accumulate to anything, I spend it. Yes, Bad Minxie, I know… which goes hand in hand with my next lesson learned.Stick-Figure-300x300

23. Patience: I beg for you every day. I always had a way of getting my way, well, usually making it happen for myself, I don’t like dealing with stupidity from other people and I never like waiting. Over the years I have learned that sometimes I just need to take a step back, breathe, and re-think the situation, I’m not gonna get upset for something that I probably wouldn’t care about or end up forgetting. I like to stop and ask myself, is this really worth going crazy about?

24.Life is all about the journey and less about the destination: A lot of times we get so caught up in what we want to achieve, that perfect picture, that end result, that we forget to live and to really enjoy life. Now, you may want to take a deep cleansing breath, and allow yourself to be present in everything you do; allow yourself to enjoy each second of your life; to observe the world around you; to observe the people that are present in your life and the beauty that is present within you and all around you, life in general.stick-figures-(4)

25.Nobody has at it all figured out: I know sometimes you may sit around and exchange war stories with friends and family, and in your head your going nuts. “What am I doing with my life!?” Just remember, nobody brags about the bad stuff that’s going on in their life. We are all winging it, trying to make the best out of day, trying to make tomorrow actually happen. We don’t know all the answers, sometimes we don’t even know the question. You are not alone, we all fighting to become better versions of ourselves.stick_figure_with_heart.1Well, enough about my ranting, what are some things you guys have learned?2

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52f87d16d1832e537b6a879cfcf98dee So I finished Scandal, what I caught up with. Glee, Gossip Girl and watched like 4 episodes of Dexter, which I have yet to get to caught up on. I also started watching Rules of Engagement, but to tell you the truth…I’m stuck. Netflix, what have you done to me? Do any of you have any ideas of what I should watch next? Heeeeelp me.

3462a82bad0b0e5d3831f9480c501ac7I’ve been looking at youtube tutorials for my new camera… I need some accessories man. I need some lenses and lighting and crap, what have gotten myself into? Also, I’m super addicted to ItsJudysLife on youtube. Her family and new twins are suuuper adorable. They vlog everyday and their daughter Julianna is so cute with her big cheeks and prankish ways. You should check them out.

6e28b7ceb94f9b4d4ddb379b70a8a7c6Taking some classes. I am not a school person at all, honestly I hate it. I dropped out of high school in my senior year (stupid me) and ended up taking my GED just to get it over with. I passed with flying colors, I’m actually very bright, just very lazy. lol. Soooo, I’ve been thinking about taking some courses online, but like my problem from start one, I just don’t know what I want to do for living… you would think I would know by now. I have had many ideas, and many loves, especially my artwork. As much as I love my artwork, they just don’t seem to pay the bills, it’s never stable.So, I’ll start doing my research and continue working my Monday-Friday, 9-5 (booohooohooo)

32c6c215e5bebfeb1549f69829e00d7aGetting my shit together man. I’m getting older, and let’s face it. I have to start taking better care of myself. I’ve been trying really hard to cut off the junk food. I started working out, it’s a minimum work out, I promise to get better and take it more religiously. See, to me, it’s not really about the number on the scale or getting skinny, I just want to feel better about myself. I have to admit, lately I have been feeling great, even with my jiggly chichos. 🙂

237bff611f1a269a45816577ebad44c5 I had more people to take shots of. I really want to start side hustling photographing events. It will be a perfect side check. Especially since I have soo many gadgets I want to get and a brand new spanking apartment/loft I keep dreaming about.

 

Well, enough about me….. someone give me some suggestions on Netflix already!

Current Catch Up

f41edfae76d734dca663c0af06d9eb44Time gets the best of us, and sadly, like all grown ups we have 20 things to get done. 50 different lists that keep scrolling and 1, ooo different ideas that you have to figure out to make happen.

Rent is a pocket killer, social sites take up your sanity most of the time and who has time for anything else…. oh yes, the romantic life.

We manage, my 9-5 and his random schedules kill us in the day time, but those late night sessions make it all worth while.

On another note,  lately, all I seem to do is wear olive colors, greys and browns. Maybe because I don’t have to worry about matching in the mornings. Lazy me, and let’s face it, I have no one to impress at work but the desktop computer that blinds me all day.

MockingjayOmg, Omg, Omg…. I know I am suuuuper late. But I never really saw the hype about Hunger games, until bored one night and Netflix saved me. I fell in love, not only because the female lead was a kick ass protagonist, but the story line had me hooked and sinked.

The next night Q, took me to see the second movie: Catching Fire. Ugh. What was that for? I was all up into it, and then all of a sudden bam! It was over.  But who’s going to wait a year or so for the next film?

I decided to read the book, (even though I haven’t read the first 2; shame on me).  I haven’t made a huge dent yet, but so far I’m all in!

Not to mention the only Jennifer Lawrence addiction. She’s so beautiful, and the more I learn about her online, the more loveable she gets. She’s so funny, and is constantly eating. I secretly want to be friends with her, have a sleepover, eat a lot of ice cream and get drunk making cookies. untitled

url-13Yes, apparently I’m late for everything and yes, Netflix is a bad influence on me. One of Q’s sisters has been ranting about the show and I always turn into a little kid and cover my ears….ear muffs!

I officially started watching the show 2 weeks ago, two weeks, that’s it. I’m already up to season 3.

It’s my only guilty pleasure, I feel like an addict.

Plus, all the beautiful white coats Kerry Washington wears, sooo pretty. I wish I owned all of them, though  I could never keep those clean in real life.

3462a82bad0b0e5d3831f9480c501ac7Also, I have to admit, I’ve become a little instagram obsessed. Facebook is still around but nothing compares to the ease of just uploading a quick pic and being nosy on every one elses stuff… hey, at least I’m honest. Plus unlike Facebook, there’s less statuses about stupid stuff.

Do you instagram? Send me your name so we can be friends!

Beautiful-Christmas-Fireplace-Docorating-Ideas-02-cottageNow that the Holiday season is among us, all I can seem to do is shop, shop shop.  My budget is ridiculously, well…my budget.

On another note, I don’t have many friends as much as I used to. Seems like the older get, the smaller my circle gets. Which I don’t mind of course, they are obviously there for a reason. I’m luck to have them, and they know who they are.

I have to admit, It’s been a couple of years since I’ve actually had a real Christmas. What may that be, you ask? I know the 24th of December comes around every year (I’m Hispanic, we celebrate the eve) But since I’m not really close to my family, Christmas’s have never been the same from when I was a kid.

Pretty lonely actually. So now that I’m a little older and can control certain situations, I have to take it upon myself and start my own traditions. Which probably explains why I’ve been working non stop to make my tiny apartment pretty and up to the season. I’ll be showing you guys pics soon, no worries.

237bff611f1a269a45816577ebad44c5I had more hours to get it all done. Or let’s be honest, to sleep.  I need more it. Every time I  go to work, I catch myself almost missing my stop on the train because I’ve fallen asleep. It doesn’t really help that I’m up at 1am typing this up either.

5d0825989028abe114d38e153dd3a6deMinx’s Mail. I just finished up December’s batch, and I hope everyone likes them. Incase you’re a little lost, I send tiny packages to random fans, thanking them for their loyal support. I appreciate you guys and gals, I really do.

Also, I’m working on making this site more personalized, I want it to represent me completely. My portfolio needs a lot of work, and I just want it to be absolutely perfect. Slowly and in due time, it’ll get done. Plus, I teach myself everything I know, so I constantly surprise myself. Win, win.

32c6c215e5bebfeb1549f69829e00d7aAlmost, everyone I know is pregnant. Okay, not everyone, but you get my drift. My 2 closest cousins are expecting, one a boy, the other a girl. Plus, my step brother’s girlfriend is expecting, a boy (my first nephew) and my friend Judy is expecting as well (she finds out the sex of the baby at the end of this week)

So many babies, I’m so excited! I can’t help but melt whenever I see some cute chunky cheeks, fat chunky thighs and those teeny tiny toes…ah!

Okay, okay.. I’ll stop.

Q and I have had the baby talk as well, but first we need to make some moves. Priority is everything, But who knows, you can’t plan everything in life.

Well, my loves… It’s been real. I’m so glad we got to catch up and I hope you guys like this. I’m gonna start trying to get a little more personal on here. After all, it is my blog… I definitely don’t mind sharing it with you all.

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But let me go, it’s officially past my bed time and I have to be an adult in the morning and pay some tax dollars (off to work). Plus, I know a gentleman who’s texting me to hurry up and give him some attention.

Goodnight,

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Update on what’s going on in my life.

Where do I even begin? The beginning is out of the question, so let’s start with the end.

I have been counting down the days, so obsessively . Two weeks to be exact, until I finally move into my new apartment. I couldn’t be more excited!

I’m finally going to be able to say I have my own space ,  no burdens,  no consideration . All me.

These past couple of months  have taken a toll  on me due to  some personal problems.

But like always, I  overcome these situations and make the best of it.

Ruts aren’t forever.

I have so many ideas for my new space, I can’t wait to show you guys what I come up with.

I’ve always been a nut for interior design and diy crafts, but never had the space to actually show my individuality , so this will definitely be  fun while you guys take the journey with me.

On another note ,  my artwork.. which is the main goal of this site…

The orders of Mini Yous have been a huge hit!

I wanted to thank everyone who has ordered their own  or have ordered one for a friend or family member or even a pet!

I’m still taking more orders, so don’t be shy to hit me up.

Also,  as for my canvas work… time has had the worst of me. Which is no excuse, but I wanted to take  the time to apologize for the delay.

Because of my lack of space and time lately  I really haven’t had the chance to  paint.

I hope you all understand and I’m re-assuring you all that your orders will be completed.

Sometimes I wish I could just multiply myself and do 5 things at once, but until science proves itself, I’m only one person with many tasks and only two arms.

Lets see, we’ve covered art, my new place…

Love life is still a no, but no worries. Everything has it’s own time naturally. There have been a few flirtation moments, but nothing that has ever passed about 2 seconds. lol

Work, grateful that I have one, hunting for a second job  or a new one  completely  . I’m hungry for my time to equal money.

That’s the best equation  I could ask for. I know I work hard for it.

Health, still breathing.

Friends, where would I be without them?

I have been truly blessed  with people who care about me. Blood couldn’t  make us any closer, I swear.

From all our crazy adventures, laughs,  advice and support, I  must be the luckiest girl to be surrounded by people who truly care about  me. And whats better then someone who wants to be  with you by choice, no t because they have to.

Also, I’ve been going to a few art shows more than usual.. in case you guys haven’t noticed.  There will be many more to come as well. Why not share the talents of others as well. Might just open your eyes a little.

Anyway,  enough rambling for now.. until next  time.