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why candid photos are better than posed ones

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When you look back at your favorite family photos, I’m willing to bet the ones that hit you right in the heart aren’t the “everyone stand still and smile” pictures.
They’re the ones where someone is cracking up, the kids are being wild, your partner is giving you that soft look, or you’re mid-hug without even realizing a camera was around.

That’s the beauty of candid photography, it ages like fine wine.

As the years pass, those real, unscripted moments hold more weight, more meaning, more truth. And this is exactly why I lean into documentary-style photography with bold colors, real emotion, and zero stiffness.

Let’s break down why candid photos stay timeless while posed ones… sometimes don’t.

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1. Candid photos tell the truth, and truth never goes out of style

Perfectly posed photos focus on how things look.
Candid photos focus on how things feel.

Ten years from now, you won’t remember how many times you told the kids to stand still.
But you will remember the way your daughter squeezed your hand, the way your toddler insisted on holding their favorite toy, or how your partner scooped your child up when they got tired.

Those tiny truths are what last.

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2. Kids aren’t built for stiff posing — and that’s a good thing

If you’ve ever tried to get a toddler to “smile normally,” you already know the struggle.
Candid photos let your kids be… kids.

Running, laughing, being shy, holding onto you, being silly — these natural moments capture who they are, not just how they look.

And those personalities? They’re precious.
They deserve to be documented as they are right now.

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3. Real moments bring back real memories

A posed photo reminds you of the moment the photo was taken.
A candid photo brings you right back into the moment itself.

You can feel the warmth, hear the laughter, relive the chaos, smell the food from the party, remember the songs playing — everything.

Candid photos hold energy.
And that energy ages beautifully.

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4. Candid photos freeze the in-between moments you’d forget otherwise

You know the moments you don’t think twice about?

The way your child reaches for you,
the way you tuck their hair behind their ear,
the way your partner looks at you when you’re not paying attention,
the way your family interacts without thinking.

These micro-moments define your family story.

They’re the pieces of life that slip away unless someone is there to catch them.

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5. Emotions don’t go out of style… but trends do

Trendy props, stiff poses, perfectly matching outfits — they can look dated fast.
But joy? Love? Laughter? The way your baby fit perfectly on your hip?

Timeless.

Candid photos will always feel relevant because emotions age well — they stay real, honest, and human.

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**6. You get to relax and actually enjoy your session**

Candid sessions feel more like hanging out.
You’re not performing, not forcing smiles, not trying to look perfect.

You’re just being yourselves, and that comfort shows in every photo.

People look their best when they feel at ease.
And that’s exactly what candid photography allows.

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7. The older the photo gets, the more the candids mean

When your kids get older…
When life looks different…
When your routines change…

It’s the candid photos that hit you the hardest.
The ones that show who your family was in that season, not just what you wore.

These are the photos your kids will treasure someday.
The ones you’ll print, frame, hold onto, and pass down.

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8. Embrace the Mess, It’s Part of the Magic

Here’s the truth every parent knows deep down, this season is messy… and someday, you’re going to miss it. The toys on the floor, the snacks half eaten, the tiny socks that never seem to stay matched, the way your living room looks like a toy store had a meltdown — it’s all part of your family’s story. One day the toys will be gone, the house will be quiet, and this chapter you’re living right now will be something you look back on with so much love. Candid photos honor that. They document your life exactly as it is, not polished or staged, but real, warm, chaotic, and full of heart. And that’s worth remembering.

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In the end, candid photos grow with you

They become more meaningful, more emotional, and more honest as time passes.
And that’s why I choose to document your family in a way that’s real, lively, bold, colorful, and true to who you are.

Perfectly posed has its place…
but candid, unscripted moments?
Those age like magic.

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This past holiday season, I took a quick trip to Orlando to visit my brother, his wife, and my niece and nephew. It was one of those trips that wasn’t about doing everything perfectly, but about being together, even when things didn’t go exactly as planned.

Our flight was late, of course, because life loves to humble you. Still, my brother and his family showed up to the airport with all the kids in tow, tired eyes, big hugs, and that familiar feeling of being home even when you’re far from it. That alone set the tone for the whole trip.

The next day, we headed to SeaWorld. I had never been before, so everything felt new to me. The park was dressed up for Christmas, with lights everywhere, decorations that made you slow down and look twice. The killer whales were absolutely gorgeous, one of those moments where you just sit there quietly and take it in. The little ones went on a few rides, full of excitement and zero fear, and it reminded me how magical new experiences feel through their eyes.

Another highlight of the trip was reconnecting with an old friend from high school. Inmarie was a grade ahead of me and was always the life of the party. The kind of person you just knew would grow into something special. Over the years, we’ve watched each other’s lives unfold through social media, marriages, kids, milestones, struggles, and growth. Seeing her in person again felt like no time had passed at all.

I finally met her youngest, who is just as sweet and adorable as you’d imagine, and it hit me how quickly time really does move. Her oldest is now 16, which honestly feels impossible. During peak COVID, her daughter and I became pen pals. We exchanged letters, stickers, and little trinkets in the mail, something so simple, yet so meaningful in such a strange time. Seeing her now, older, taller, more confident, was one of those quiet moments that stay with you.

Christmas itself was calm and low-key. No big productions, no rush. The kids played with their new toys, happy and content. The adults leaned into a slower version of the holiday, one that didn’t need much to feel full.

Later that day, my girls and I boarded a plane and spent Christmas in the air, heading back home to their dad. It wasn’t traditional, but it was us. And that felt right.

This trip wasn’t about perfect photos or curated moments. Most of the images I’m sharing are simple phone photos, small glimpses of real life. I’m choosing to keep my kids’ faces private, but the moments themselves still matter. The hands, the movement, the togetherness, the in between.

These are the kinds of memories that remind me why I do what I do. Why documenting life as it is, imperfect, tender, fleeting, means everything. Because time really does fly, especially with children, and the smallest moments often end up being the ones we hold onto the longest.
I hope you had a great holiday, full of love, laughter, and moments worth holding onto.

Why Candid Photos Age Better Than Perfectly Posed Ones