Why I Gently โ€œPeer Pressureโ€ Moms to Get in the Photo | “The Magic of Now”

Thereโ€™s something sacred about those first few days after a baby is born.

The wrinkly toes.
The flaky skin.
The way their entire body fits into the crook of your arm.

This session was originally meant to be a Fresh 48, the kind where I meet you at the hospital and document your baby within the first 48 hours of life.

But instead?

We waited.

And it was absolutely the right decision.

Eliana initially reached out wanting to document her baby girl as soon as she arrived. But as the days unfolded, they decided to give themselves more time.
Sometimes waiting gives you more time settle into a new rhythm, physically recover, and just get more sleep! lol

When I arrived at their home in Queens, NY, baby Emilia was bright-eyed, alert, and still tiny, so perfect.

โ€œIโ€™m Not a Camera Personโ€

Now letโ€™s talk about mom for a second.

Eliana told me from the beginning:
โ€œI just want photos of the baby. Iโ€™m not a camera person.โ€

She even shared that when she got engaged, her fiancรฉ hired a photographer, and she was quickly over posing.

And I told her, very gentlyโ€ฆ

โ€œIโ€™m going to peer pressure you in the nicest way possible.โ€

Because hereโ€™s the truth:

The fresh baby smell fades.
The tiny toes turn into little feet that one day smell like cheese.
The newborn scrunch disappears.
The way they fit perfectly on your chest changes almost overnight.

This is their first baby. It only happens once.

And I always tell my moms who don’t want to get in front of the camera:
If you never want to look at the photos again, you donโ€™t have to.
But at least theyโ€™ll exist.

She trusted me, and it was worth it.
By the end of the session, Eliana was relaxed. She laughed, she held her baby without worrying about angles. And when she saw the images, she thanked me over and over. She even left the sweetest review, the kind that makes you want to hug your laptop.

I will always encourage moms to get in the frame. Because one day, your baby will look for you in the photos. And they should find you, holding them, loving them, existing in their story.


The best part?
Hearing how she felt after seeing the images.


If youโ€™re in New York or Connecticut and thinking about documenting your growing family, whether itโ€™s a Fresh 48, a two-month-old, or a toddler who wonโ€™t sit still, I promise weโ€™ll do it in a way that feels easy, natural, and true to you.

You donโ€™t have to be a โ€œcamera person.โ€

You just have to be present.

And Iโ€™ll take care of the rest.

Behind the Scenes of Jelissaโ€™s Quinceaรฑera, A Night Rooted in Tradition, Love, and Big Feelings

Quinceaรฑera dressed in a red ball gown during her celebration at a VFW hall in Stratford, Connecticut, surrounded by elegant decor and traditional seating as she celebrates her fifteenth birthday, photographed in a documentary style to capture an authentic milestone event

A Quinceaรฑera Is Not Just a Party, Itโ€™s a Moment in Time

There are events you photograph, and then there are events you feel. Jelissaโ€™s quinceaรฑera was absolutely the second kind.

For months leading up to her big day, I worked closely with her mom, Nancy, brainstorming details, timelines, and little moments that would matter long after the balloons came down. That behind the scenes planning is one of my favorite parts of event photography, because when the night finally arrives, everyone gets to be present, and I get to quietly make sure nothing meaningful slips by unnoticed.

The day of the event started the same way many of my long event days do, kids dropped off with a trusted babysitter, a deep breath, cameras charged, and a mental checklist running in my head. Showtime.

I arrived at their home at 3:30 pm to photograph Jelissa getting ready for her quinceaรฑera, and this part always feels extra special. Hair being curled, dresses carefully stepped into, nervous excitement mixed with proud smiles, itโ€™s the calm before the celebration.

In Latino and Hispanic culture, a quinceaรฑera marks the transition from childhood into young womanhood. Itโ€™s symbolic, emotional, and layered with tradition. Watching that unfold in real time, especially inside a familyโ€™s home, is exactly why documentary-style photography matters. These moments donโ€™t repeat themselves.

The celebration continued at the VFW in Stratford, Connecticut, transformed into a beautiful space centered around a traditional throne-style seating area that immediately told you, tonight is about her.

Every detail felt intentional, from the decor to the pacing of the evening. As a Connecticut and New York event candid documentary photographer, Iโ€™m always watching how people move through a space, where the emotions gather, and when to step back and let moments breathe.

The Traditions That Made Everyone Emotional

Some parts of the night hit straight in the heart, and yes, I absolutely teared up behind my camera.

Here are a few moments that stood out most

โ€ข The lighting of the 15 candles, each dedicated to someone meaningful in Jelissaโ€™s life
โ€ข The changing of the shoes, when her dad swapped her sneakers for high heels, a classic quinceaรฑera tradition that never fails to get people emotional
โ€ข The reflection moment, where Jelissa honored her younger self through her niece, a reminder of how fast time moves and how deeply we carry our inner child
โ€ข A candle dedicated to the vendors, where I had the privilege of lighting one on our behalf, an unexpected and incredibly touching gesture
Watching Jelissa honor her younger self hit especially close to home for me. I never had a quinceaรฑera of my own. My mom bought me the most beautiful lavender and pink gown, itโ€™s still sitting in her closet to this day. But the party never happened. Life moved fast, priorities shifted, and that moment quietly passed.

Standing there, camera in hand, watching a young girl be celebrated so intentionally, I couldnโ€™t help but thinkโ€ฆ maybe one day, one of my daughters will get to wear that dress. Maybe that story will come full circle in its own way.

Thatโ€™s the thing about nights like these. Theyโ€™re not just about one person. They ripple through generations. They remind us of what we didnโ€™t have, what we hope to give, and how deeply meaningful it is to pause and say, you matter, this moment matters.

Just when emotions settled, a dancing robot entered the room and instantly turned the energy all the way up. The dance floor filled, laughter took over, and the night shifted into full celebration mode.

This balance, emotional depth and pure fun, is what makes events like this so powerful to document.

Why I Photograph Events This Way

People often ask, Why candid documentary photography for events like a quinceaรฑera?

Because posed photos tell you what happened.
Candid photos remind you how it felt.

My goal is always to create images that let you relive the night exactly as it unfolded, the proud glances, the tight hugs, the joyful chaos, the quiet tears you didnโ€™t realize anyone saw.


Planning, Trust, and Letting Go

Nancy trusted me not just to show up with a camera, but to understand the importance of this milestone. That trust is everything. When families feel supported, the night flows more smoothly, the emotions are real, and the photos become truly meaningful.

Thatโ€™s the experience I aim to give every family I work with.

Thinking About Your Own Event?

Whether youโ€™re planning a quinceaรฑera, sweet sixteen, milestone birthday, or cultural celebration, you deserve photos that honor the story, not rush it.

Iโ€™m based in Connecticut and proudly offer my services throughout Fairfield County and New Haven County, as well as the New York Metro Area. If youโ€™re looking for a NY and Connecticut portrait and event candid documentary photographer who loves to boldly capture special events, Iโ€™d love to connect.

Reach out, letโ€™s talk details, and letโ€™s document your story as it unfolds.

Why Candid Photos Age Better Than Perfectly Posed Ones

why candid photos are better than posed ones
family playing on the couch while they tickle their son in brooklyn ct

When you look back at your favorite family photos, Iโ€™m willing to bet the ones that hit you right in the heart arenโ€™t the โ€œeveryone stand still and smileโ€ pictures.
Theyโ€™re the ones where someone is cracking up, the kids are being wild, your partner is giving you that soft look, or youโ€™re mid-hug without even realizing a camera was around.

Thatโ€™s the beauty of candid photography, it ages like fine wine.

As the years pass, those real, unscripted moments hold more weight, more meaning, more truth. And this is exactly why I lean into documentary-style photography with bold colors, real emotion, and zero stiffness.

Letโ€™s break down why candid photos stay timeless while posed onesโ€ฆ sometimes donโ€™t.

big sister holds baby siter and feeds her mik

1. Candid photos tell the truth, and truth never goes out of style

Perfectly posed photos focus on how things look.
Candid photos focus on how things feel.

Ten years from now, you wonโ€™t remember how many times you told the kids to stand still.
But you will remember the way your daughter squeezed your hand, the way your toddler insisted on holding their favorite toy, or how your partner scooped your child up when they got tired.

Those tiny truths are what last.


grandma raises her open arms while playing with her grandson while at a backyard birthday party graduation party in stratford ct event photography

2. Kids arenโ€™t built for stiff posing โ€” and thatโ€™s a good thing

If youโ€™ve ever tried to get a toddler to โ€œsmile normally,โ€ you already know the struggle.
Candid photos let your kids beโ€ฆ kids.

Running, laughing, being shy, holding onto you, being silly โ€” these natural moments capture who they are, not just how they look.

And those personalities? Theyโ€™re precious.
They deserve to be documented as they are right now.


big sister helps mommy bathe little sister in the. kitchen sink

3. Real moments bring back real memories

A posed photo reminds you of the moment the photo was taken.
A candid photo brings you right back into the moment itself.

You can feel the warmth, hear the laughter, relive the chaos, smell the food from the party, remember the songs playing โ€” everything.

Candid photos hold energy.
And that energy ages beautifully.


mother and sun play in the pool. little boy is laughing while they jump in the water , stratford ct

4. Candid photos freeze the in-between moments youโ€™d forget otherwise

You know the moments you donโ€™t think twice about?

The way your child reaches for you,
the way you tuck their hair behind their ear,
the way your partner looks at you when youโ€™re not paying attention,
the way your family interacts without thinking.

These micro-moments define your family story.

Theyโ€™re the pieces of life that slip away unless someone is there to catch them.


halloween night with a funny face from a kid

5. Emotions donโ€™t go out of styleโ€ฆ but trends do

Trendy props, stiff poses, perfectly matching outfits โ€” they can look dated fast.
But joy? Love? Laughter? The way your baby fit perfectly on your hip?

Timeless.

Candid photos will always feel relevant because emotions age well โ€” they stay real, honest, and human.


grandfather races with his two gradkids by the beach on the sand in milford ct.

6. You get to relax and actually enjoy your session

Candid sessions feel more like hanging out.
Youโ€™re not performing, not forcing smiles, not trying to look perfect.

Youโ€™re just being yourselves, and that comfort shows in every photo.

People look their best when they feel at ease.
And thatโ€™s exactly what candid photography allows.


close up of mother and daughter snuggling, baby kisses mommy on the cheeck in  trumbul ct

7. The older the photo gets, the more the candids mean

When your kids get olderโ€ฆ
When life looks differentโ€ฆ
When your routines changeโ€ฆ

Itโ€™s the candid photos that hit you the hardest.
The ones that show who your family was in that season, not just what you wore.

These are the photos your kids will treasure someday.
The ones youโ€™ll print, frame, hold onto, and pass down.


two little girls playing dress up chase each other around the house in stratford ct

8. Embrace the Mess, Itโ€™s Part of the Magic

Hereโ€™s the truth every parent knows deep down, this season is messyโ€ฆ and someday, youโ€™re going to miss it. The toys on the floor, the snacks half eaten, the tiny socks that never seem to stay matched, the way your living room looks like a toy store had a meltdown โ€” itโ€™s all part of your familyโ€™s story. One day the toys will be gone, the house will be quiet, and this chapter youโ€™re living right now will be something you look back on with so much love. Candid photos honor that. They document your life exactly as it is, not polished or staged, but real, warm, chaotic, and full of heart. And thatโ€™s worth remembering.

three adults sisters, laughing near the beach house in milford ct

In the end, candid photos grow with you

They become more meaningful, more emotional, and more honest as time passes.
And thatโ€™s why I choose to document your family in a way thatโ€™s real, lively, bold, colorful, and true to who you are.

Perfectly posed has its placeโ€ฆ
but candid, unscripted moments?
Those age like magic.

Photo Journal: A Little Orlando, A Lot of Heart

This past holiday season, I took a quick trip to Orlando to visit my brother, his wife, and my niece and nephew. It was one of those trips that wasnโ€™t about doing everything perfectly, but about being together, even when things didnโ€™t go exactly as planned.

Our flight was late, of course, because life loves to humble you. Still, my brother and his family showed up to the airport with all the kids in tow, tired eyes, big hugs, and that familiar feeling of being home even when youโ€™re far from it. That alone set the tone for the whole trip.

The next day, we headed to SeaWorld. I had never been before, so everything felt new to me. The park was dressed up for Christmas, with lights everywhere, decorations that made you slow down and look twice. The killer whales were absolutely gorgeous, one of those moments where you just sit there quietly and take it in. The little ones went on a few rides, full of excitement and zero fear, and it reminded me how magical new experiences feel through their eyes.

Another highlight of the trip was reconnecting with an old friend from high school. Inmarie was a grade ahead of me and was always the life of the party. The kind of person you just knew would grow into something special. Over the years, weโ€™ve watched each otherโ€™s lives unfold through social media, marriages, kids, milestones, struggles, and growth. Seeing her in person again felt like no time had passed at all.

I finally met her youngest, who is just as sweet and adorable as youโ€™d imagine, and it hit me how quickly time really does move. Her oldest is now 16, which honestly feels impossible. During peak COVID, her daughter and I became pen pals. We exchanged letters, stickers, and little trinkets in the mail, something so simple, yet so meaningful in such a strange time. Seeing her now, older, taller, more confident, was one of those quiet moments that stay with you.

Christmas itself was calm and low-key. No big productions, no rush. The kids played with their new toys, happy and content. The adults leaned into a slower version of the holiday, one that didnโ€™t need much to feel full.

Later that day, my girls and I boarded a plane and spent Christmas in the air, heading back home to their dad. It wasnโ€™t traditional, but it was us. And that felt right.

This trip wasnโ€™t about perfect photos or curated moments. Most of the images Iโ€™m sharing are simple phone photos, small glimpses of real life. Iโ€™m choosing to keep my kidsโ€™ faces private, but the moments themselves still matter. The hands, the movement, the togetherness, the in between.

These are the kinds of memories that remind me why I do what I do. Why documenting life as it is, imperfect, tender, fleeting, means everything. Because time really does fly, especially with children, and the smallest moments often end up being the ones we hold onto the longest.
I hope you had a great holiday, full of love, laughter, and moments worth holding onto.